Night terrors and car crashes

I had my 3rd night terror since my dad past last night (literally just 30 minutes ago) it had Freddy Krueger in it but he was my bro, all he wanted to do was touch my butt. But it changed to shadow people taking the form of my mom (which I have seen once actually in person) and the form of one of my cats, that’s when my mom came to wake me up. Come to find out I woke everyone up.
The next thing I saw after my night terror was a video my cousin reposted on FB, it was about car accidents and that’s when I say an actual video clip of a motorcycle accident. That’s how my dad died so I’m pissed. I’m pissed I can’t sleep, I’m pissed I saw that and I’m pissed that my cousin (who is my dad’s niece and who was at his funeral) posted that.



Stop calling what’s happening in Ferguson a “riot”.

It is not a riot.

Vancouver losing the Stanley Cup a few years ago was a riot. It was angry, drunken destruction with no purpose. (And as a Canadian, it was a shameful event)

Ferguson is not a riot. It is a protest. It is an uprising. It is a civil rights revolution. The prople of Ferguson may be angry, but they have a reason to be angry, and they are not violent, and they are not hooligans, thugs or looters. They are protesting for their human rights which are currently being denied.

Look at the difference between a riot and a protest. A riot is chaos. A protest has a purpose.

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Advise on How to confront a person you have had a fight with.

If you want someone to talk to you Or you wish to talk to them Do Not Start with “YOU” anywhere in the sentence, example ‘Are YOU willing to talk to me now?’ Using ‘you’ in this context implies that the person you are talking to is a problem, and if you are having a problem with them and you want to have a decent conversation and not start shit you should use “WE” it implies that you want to talk to the person and talk about what ever is or has happened. Example ‘Hey is it cool that we talk?’ It’s not accusing and it doesn’t sound like you’re coming off as being an asshole to the receiving end.
Now I know I have problems people and people have problems with me and I usually just try to avoid them cause I have my own shit to deal instead of dealing with someone who wants to rebuild a bridge that has clearly been burned. Not only burned but blown to fucking bits. (Side note: I was in a huge situation that could have been handled better I know this cause screaming I’m not scared of bees is the least professional why to handle conflict) but to be contacted with (just found this message in my other inbox on FB) “are You willing to talk to me now?’ Clearly guarantees that there will be no conversation cause both parties are at fault not just me and the message clearly makes it sound like I am the only problem (2nd side note: conflict was building for along time between me and said person and I finally couldn’t deal with them anymore). So I’m not replying instead I am posting on tumblr so people can see that if they are having problems with someone and they want to talk that they know the proper way to do so without sounding like they are accusing or blaming the other person for whatever happened.




Take a facet of crime, and then look at television shows/movies that feature those criminals as protagonists.

White mobs.


White pirates.


White serial killers.


White political corruption


White drug dealers


I mostly want to talk about this as a TV phenomenon, but pick a crime, any crime, and Western media has probably made a movie/TV series/play/etc. with a white person that romanticizes the criminal activity. No matter what, a white person can do whatever terrible crimes and still have a TV/movie fanbase that loves them.

When you see black or brown people committing crimes on screen, you are to see them thugs and criminal masterminds and people to be beat down.

When you see white people committing crimes on screen, you see a three-dimensional portrait of why someone might commit that crime, how criminals are people too, and how you should even love them for the crimes that they commit because they’re just providing for their families or they’ve wronged or they’re just people and not perfect. This is particularly a luxury given to white male characters, since there few white female criminals as protagonists.

If and of the above shows were about black or brown folks, there would be a backlash of (white) people claiming that TV and movies are romanticizing criminals and are treating them too much like heroes and that it will affect viewers and encourage violence and “thuggish” behavior. And yet fictional white criminals get to have a deep fanbase who loves these white criminals, receive accolades and awards, get called amazing television that portray the complexities of human nature. Viewers of these characters see past the atrocious crimes and into their humanity, a luxury that white characters always have while characters of color rarely do. The closest that mainstream TV has come to showing black criminals as main characters is probably The Wire, and even then, the criminals share equal screen time and equal status as main characters as the police trying to stop them.

The idea that crime can be so heavily romanticized and glorified to such a degree is undoubtedly a privilege given to white characters. The next time you hear someone talk about Dexter Morgan or Walter White in a positive way, it may be an opportunity to rethink how white people can always able to be seen as people no matter what they do, while everyone else can be boiled down to nothing but a criminal.

I always felt extremely uncomfortable with this trope because, not only is it racist, but it tends to feed into the already too common propensity society has to humanize, romanticize and exonerate irrevocably terrible white men. Like if you’re a white man and you commit awful crimes, you will likely go down in history as a legendary celebrity and historical figure