I had my 3rd night terror since my dad past last night (literally just 30 minutes ago) it had Freddy Krueger in it but he was my bro, all he wanted to do was touch my butt. But it changed to shadow people taking the form of my mom (which I have seen once actually in person) and the form of one of my cats, that’s when my mom came to wake me up. Come to find out I woke everyone up.
The next thing I saw after my night terror was a video my cousin reposted on FB, it was about car accidents and that’s when I say an actual video clip of a motorcycle accident. That’s how my dad died so I’m pissed. I’m pissed I can’t sleep, I’m pissed I saw that and I’m pissed that my cousin (who is my dad’s niece and who was at his funeral) posted that.
If you want someone to talk to you Or you wish to talk to them Do Not Start with “YOU” anywhere in the sentence, example ‘Are YOU willing to talk to me now?’ Using ‘you’ in this context implies that the person you are talking to is a problem, and if you are having a problem with them and you want to have a decent conversation and not start shit you should use “WE” it implies that you want to talk to the person and talk about what ever is or has happened. Example ‘Hey is it cool that we talk?’ It’s not accusing and it doesn’t sound like you’re coming off as being an asshole to the receiving end.
Now I know I have problems people and people have problems with me and I usually just try to avoid them cause I have my own shit to deal instead of dealing with someone who wants to rebuild a bridge that has clearly been burned. Not only burned but blown to fucking bits. (Side note: I was in a huge situation that could have been handled better I know this cause screaming I’m not scared of bees is the least professional why to handle conflict) but to be contacted with (just found this message in my other inbox on FB) “are You willing to talk to me now?’ Clearly guarantees that there will be no conversation cause both parties are at fault not just me and the message clearly makes it sound like I am the only problem (2nd side note: conflict was building for along time between me and said person and I finally couldn’t deal with them anymore). So I’m not replying instead I am posting on tumblr so people can see that if they are having problems with someone and they want to talk that they know the proper way to do so without sounding like they are accusing or blaming the other person for whatever happened.